I read an article recently that talked about the primary reason, in the authors opinion, that some people are successful and others not despite having apparent similar talents and looks. The answer didn’t surprise me too much but did seem to be worth sharing. The key distinguishing point is this:
Those who fail want other people to make him feel good about himself.
Those who succeed makes other people feel good about themselves.
The author was specifically talking about being successful in dating, but I think it’s on point no matter what the relationship. Whether you’re wanting to make a connection with the cute Barista at your local Starbucks or make a memorable connection with a sales prospect the same thing applies. I once wrote about the Rules for a Perfect Day and this part stands out:
I will treat everyone I meet today the way I would like to be treated. I will strive to have them like themselves better when they’re with me.
It’s not always easy to focus on other people and their needs, especially when we may feel needy, but it’s much more rewarding. It’s the small and simple things that touch people’s lives.
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